I don’t about the rest of you, but I hate when the time changes in the fall. With the exception football and fresh apples, I see nothing redeeming about fall. I’m a summer guy. Someday I want to live where it’s Sunny and 80 degrees every day. But what I really don’t like is how short the days start to get in the fall and into the winter. I love the sunshine. Nothing helps my mood like a bright sunny day, but when those days get shorter and shorter, it starts to suck the life out of me.
I’m usually in the office every morning by 7:15 or so and one morning last week it suddenly pitch-black as pulled up the driveway. Ugh. After several months of pulling up in the morning sun, it’s now the darkest part of the day. The moon is at the lowest point, and the light of dawn has yet to peak over the horizon. Yuck. Couple that with the fact I’m alone in a church until around 9:30 or so most days the darkness can just be creepy sometimes. I mean I don’t work in one of those 150-year-old gothic cathedrals with bats and such, but even still when it’s pitch black this building makes weird noises, and it can creep me out. There is nothing creepier than being out here at night, alone, during a thunderstorm though. Yikes. I just turn on, like every light in the place. Then I get paranoid because we have this huge glass front some sort of serial killer is looking at me! AAAIYEEEE!
It got me thinking this morning though, does the winter help me appreciate summer more? Does night help me appreciate the daytime? I’m so thankful in these long Western Ohio winters for the daylight. Even when it’s sunny and -10 outside I’m just grateful it’s not dreary and -10. As I have gotten older, I’ve come to see how the dark and the light have their place. It’s easy, for me at least, to take things for granted when they are around all the time. I’ve been married over 18 years, my wife is always around. I tend to her for granted, until she goes somewhere for a few days and halfway through day 2 I suddenly realize how much she does around the house and for our family and how much I just miss having her around. It’s like that old Cinderella song, “Don’t Know What You Got (Until Its Gone).”
I’ll never completely understand all the terrible things that I happened in this world. I’ll never totally understand why some families are riddled with tragedies, or why a great guy like my Dad dies young while others live on, but I the older I get, the more the darkness helps me appreciate the light. In the midst of senseless tragedies, the more I am thankful for the first responders who run into shootings, fires, and disaster than those of us who run away from them. Mr. Rogers’ Mom was right to remind him to “look for the helpers” anytime bad things happened. In the midst of sickness, for example, there are nurses and doctors. I’ve heard countless stories of cancer patients or hospice patients and families who form bonds with their caregivers. During the darkest moments, light.
As I chronicled in earlier posts, I’ve been battling a lot of cynicism. And now I honestly feel like I am coming out of the other side of that, and it’s helping me to appreciate that season already, and moreover understand the light of this season. As part of not falling back into that cycle, I’ve got this new-found appreciation for “where I’ve been.” It doesn’t mean I want to go back there, but I couldn’t get here without being there. And it makes the “there” all the sweeter.
For a guy like me, one of the most challenging parts of living here aside from leaving our family is that after spending 31 years of my life in Eastern Kentucky, has been the weather. It never snows on Halloween down home. It has here. Since I’m already depressed naturally in the winter, and this past year my family had some struggles, I had some challenges at work, all during what turned out to be a very long winter, it all just spiraled me into this jaded place. Going forward though I am going to appreciate significantly next summer more. And while the days are getting shorter I am going to enjoy the light I do get, and be thankful for the dark and the cold because it makes the light and the summer that much sweeter.